then ask him to build you a porch and help you do things see if he will do the same for you.
They are still acting like they cant let go but yet they dont get back either! If you decide to marry your man, the family's preference of her is not going to change that because you marry him, she is not going to stop being a thorn in your side because you are now married, he is not going to stop trying to appease her because he wants to be around his kid, so if it bothers you this much you had better take your time on making the decision but marriage sometimes makes it worse than makes it better.My heart goes out to you girl. But it's just not right. This way of thinking can seriously endanger your current relationship. Come to find out she did overdose and her baby girl she killed herI never did hear any thang about her agian . I don't have the answers either My boyfriends ex wife is ruining my relationship with him You can only control how you handle your part of the relationship. he should not be giving her personal money to do things like build a porch, this is not a necessity for any child.
This ex, however, is manipulative and seems to be only attempting to use the baby to drive a wedge between myself and my boyfriend. He got the custody arrangement changed to every other week. I am wondering what ever happened here. My bf really loves his kid but still follows me in everything i tell him. Needless to say I can relate to nearly all of these posts. We do not live with each other. He may then see how serious it is affecting you. That's up to her to find help and money to do it.
Because if not, the child might have questions going on through her head that she cannot yet answer with her young mind. Where do you draw the line? That must be awful to have to deal with. I've decided if he's over there everyday seeing his daughter, I'm going to have to talk to him and make a hard decision. I keep telling myself that with my bf. Ask Dr. NerdLove: His Ex is Ruining Our Relationship Dr. NerdLove answers readers burning questions about relationships and exes.
give her her child support and pick the kid up from her. Simply bc she has his daughter, whom he loves so very much.. As he should. Now that she's moving back, the ex has asked pretty much everyday for my bf to give xtra money for her house payment, to fix up the house, to one help build a porch, to help her move. i have a vvery similar situation, but i drew the line before anything like that ever happened. And although the situation is different, I understand how much you're hurting. I would love to hear your story.. what has happened since she moved back. We have had many fights and I even told her a few times over email to cutout all the calls but she doesnt seem to care.
Try reading I Hate His/Her Ex by Alex Cooper - a book for anyone who needs help and advice dealing with their partner’s past relationship(s) - brilliant read! It will test you to your limits. And healthy boundaries have got to be set. At the same time, this **** needs to be nipped in the bud now before you take those vows. I need some advice and feedback please. My boyfriends ex wife is trying to ruin our relationship. Does she not have family to help or support her? My boyfriend's ex wife, who is a fat cow with bad dress sense, is ruining us. and he says no. It's killing me inside. He just wasn't setting boundaries with the ex out of fear that she wouldn't let him see his son, but regardless, she's doing that anyways. They were married 5 yrs, have been divorced over 2 years. What's so hurtful and sad is I've found in him what I've found in no one else.
What i worry about is with his ex moving up here she will live about 10 miles from him and I worry and just know he will be over there everyday. If she is unable to support her daughter, herself, if she's that unstable, then he needs to fight to get custody of his daughter. I had a man that way living with me and i came right and told him if the b,tch comes out side that i would make that she was a cheater/ child pervert / and a theath. They believe with absolute certainty that what they feel is the right thing for both of you. She needs to get herself a boyfriend!I couldn't agree more!! Our mouths can say one thing, but the heart says something totally different. He has told her to make other arrangements and he could stay every other night for a week.. which I still think is wrong. I in no way want to come inbetween him and his daughter. I told him he gets the extra time anyway. I would have rather ate dirt than to ask him for anything. make sureIt's Healthy for the daughter to be exposed to her Dad and real Mom if she knows it is actually her real mom. Im in a kinda same situation- bf has a kid with ex who cannot move on. And to be completely honest, you shouldn't have to! I cannot imagine being with someone else...You have now thought this out and you have some good plans and you are going to be patient in implimenting them. He says it's all for his daughter.